One of the most difficult decisions you will make is the one to end your marriage. Even if you believe this choice is best for you and your kids, it is still one that will bring significant changes for every member of your family, and it is important not to overlook how your kids will handle this information. You understand how critical it is to be sensitive and careful when discussing this matter with your kids, starting with the initial conversation you have with them.
It is beneficial to be careful, thoughtful and honest when you and the other parent have this conversation with your kids regarding your divorce. This initial conversation is important as it can affect how your kids navigate this process and deal with the changes they will encounter. A sensitive and thoughtful approach, as well as preparation, is critical for this discussion.
Tips for a productive conversation
This will be a difficult conversation for every member of the family, even if you and the other parent resolve to be amicable and cooperative. It is important that you prepare well as this can help you communicate in a way that is calm, thoughtful and meaningful. Tips for this important conversation include:
- Have the conversation in a place that is private so that your kids can react and ask questions without embarrassment.
- Be ready to answer your kids’ questions without making them feel silly or unreasonable.
- Understand that your kids may have strong emotions regarding this news, and they may react strongly.
- Prepare ahead of time for exactly what you will say, and only communicate in ways that are appropriate for their ages.
- Ensure that your children understand they are not to blame for the divorce and that you both plan to be involved and loving parents going forward.
- Explain exactly what the kids can expect over the next months in terms of where they will live and how they will spend time with each parent.
After this initial conversation, you will then focus on providing them with as much stability and security as possible through a thoughtful child custody plan. As you consider your options and move forward to your post-divorce future in Minnesota, you will benefit from focusing on how your choices will impact your children, both now and for years to come.